This is going to be dark and depressive, but it's my conclusion.
It doesn't matter if you climb Everest, create a billion dollar company, collect a bunch of Facespace friends, or spend a third of your life playing games. Your memories die with you, and how you're remembered dies with everyone else.
If it makes you happy do it now, regret it later, and forget it in the end. If by chance I'm wrong about the cycle of things, then the worst case is that you'll have an eternity to regret ever taking the advice of this forum post.
The Realm has turn based combat. It was great when I played it. I still think about playing it again.
The world is real time, but when you engage in pvp/pve you're loaded into a combat scene. Everyone outside of the scene can still see the fight taking place, and has the option to join in the next combat round.