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Get a life! True or False?

mgilbrtsnmgilbrtsn Member EpicPosts: 3,325
On gaming forums, a popular refrain is 'Get a life' or 'go kiss a girl' or 'leave the house'.  Do you believe that playing video games is less of a valid pursuit than sports, or clubbing or other 'real life' social interactions?  There seems to be a social stigma to those who get their social and interpersonal connections through the computer.  Does it matter where you get them.

IMO, if a person is happy with playing online MMOs or other video games and it fills his need of social interaction, then he has 'a life.'  Why do people have the need to denigrate this?

Do you believe people who spend their time in virtual environments damaged or somehow stunted because of this?

Concentrate on enjoying yourself, and not on why I shouldn't enjoy myself.

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  • KiyorisKiyoris Member RarePosts: 2,130
    edited November 2015
    I don't think there is a stigma to gaming. In fact many bitter non-gaming groups, whose life consists of attacking gamers, seem angry and socially awkward, far more so than gamers. The people who attack gamers are the ones who need a life. SJW, feminists, etc.

    The only thing gamers are doing is enjoying their hobby. Our group never bothers anyone, yet gamers have been consistently attacked, we have been called anything from nerds to potential killers to basement dwellers, yet gamers are pretty normal compared to the groups attacking them.

    Gamers enjoy themselves, and bitter people don't like that and they try, unsuccessfully, to stigmatize gamers. Who cares what others think about gaming, really.
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  • GdemamiGdemami Member EpicPosts: 12,248
    edited November 2015
    "Get a life" isn't a refrence to gaming being something "not real" but it points to fact that your gaming habits are likely excessive - you are losing touch with reality, taking your hobby too seriously, you should spent your spare time with some other activites as well.


    Does gaming cause "damage"? Well, you missed the reference, what does it tell?
  • FuryVFuryV Member UncommonPosts: 467
    Oh God, shut up with this crap.  It's clear the people making these threads are insecure about being told to 'get a life' so they make the thread in the hopes that other people will convince them "no no it's ok, you DO have a life".

    If you believe you have a life, then so be it, f*ck everybody else.  Just stop with these cringeworthy threads.
  • RobokappRobokapp Member RarePosts: 6,211
    FuryV said:
    Oh God, shut up with this crap.  It's clear the people making these threads are insecure about being told to 'get a life' so they make the thread in the hopes that other people will convince them "no no it's ok, you DO have a life".

    If you believe you have a life, then so be it, f*ck everybody else.  Just stop with these cringeworthy threads.
    You're insecure about how that statement is used, aren't you?

    Who came up with this "insecure" crap anyway? 

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  • nariusseldonnariusseldon Member EpicPosts: 27,775
    Well, everyone has a life, and it is up to the person to decide what he/she wants to do with it.

    Playing video games is no more or less "valid" than going restaurant hopping, or watching a movie. Fun is fun. 

    My only line is that career (work) and family are more important than entertainment .. but again, those are MY priorities, and not necessarily other people's.
  • 5Luck5Luck Member UncommonPosts: 218
    As with any way to pass time, it is more about the process and how it effects us then an over arching stigma that makes the real differences in how we are viewed.
    As a gamer, I tend to be more historically accurate, problem solving and -table memory- oriented.  Where as a sports fan maybe more goal oriented and into "the big push", how these personality traits work together is more an issue and can be over come like any obstacle by recognizing it and instead of stating the obvious differences, work them like a 6 star boss in an ice dungeon and make the bigger picture more important!
  • mgilbrtsnmgilbrtsn Member EpicPosts: 3,325
    FuryV said:
    Oh God, shut up with this crap.  It's clear the people making these threads are insecure about being told to 'get a life' so they make the thread in the hopes that other people will convince them "no no it's ok, you DO have a life".

    If you believe you have a life, then so be it, f*ck everybody else.  Just stop with these cringeworthy threads.
    I am not insecure in the least.  I am simply asking a question that I would like to know what people think.  I'm sorry you do not approve.

    Concentrate on enjoying yourself, and not on why I shouldn't enjoy myself.

  • MMOvisionMMOvision Member UncommonPosts: 112
    mgilbrtsn said:
    On gaming forums, a popular refrain is 'Get a life' or 'go kiss a girl' or 'leave the house'.  Do you believe that playing video games is less of a valid pursuit than sports, or clubbing or other 'real life' social interactions?  There seems to be a social stigma to those who get their social and interpersonal connections through the computer.  Does it matter where you get them.

    IMO, if a person is happy with playing online MMOs or other video games and it fills his need of social interaction, then he has 'a life.'  Why do people have the need to denigrate this?

    Do you believe people who spend their time in virtual environments damaged or somehow stunted because of this?
    "Does it matter where you get them"
    -yes, it matters. you should look in to this further, it's interesting.

    "...MMOs or other video games and it fills his need of social interaction, then he has 'a life.'  Why do people have the need to denigrate this?"
    -It's not healthy to completely replace human interaction with an entertainment medium.

    "Do you believe people who spend their time in virtual environments damaged or somehow stunted because of this?"
    -No, unless the time spent is "all" or "most" of their time.   Human psychological development is a delicate b!tch of a reality that nothing virtual can beat... yet.




  • SovrathSovrath Member LegendaryPosts: 28,753
    Kiyoris said:
    I don't think there is a stigma to gaming.
    There is still a stigma to gaming.

    Just because someone pulls out their phone or tablet and plays a few rounds of whatever mobile game is popular, doesn't mean that the vast amount of people who do this are 'gamers'.

    They don't go to forums and spend a lot of energy arguing minutiae and they don't spend hours per day playing video games.

    The majority of people I know, have met with, and interact with on a daily basis, whether it's professional or they are friends or acquaintances, do not play video games. Talk of 'gaming' only brings blank stares at best.

    This is not to say that video games are not more popular than ever. They are. But it's going to take a little longer to have it seen on the same level as watching sports or TV shows or playing golf.

    As to the OP's question, why would anyone on a gaming forum take someone "on a gaming forum" seriously for saying "get a life" since that very question could be directed right back at them?

    Additionally, it depends on what one looks at as a life of quality. A friend of mine once said that every minute a person spends playing a video game they could be doing something actually worthwhile. Whereas someone might think that every minute that you spend just doing something you enjoy "is" worthwhile.




  • HedeonHedeon Member UncommonPosts: 997
    it is nothing but an ill-bred and immature comment.

  • BraindomeBraindome Member UncommonPosts: 959
    Just like anything in life it's economics and since alot of money made in gaming goes abroad it's attacked "secret agenda".

    Things like Twitch and NA consoles and recently successful NA games have made gaming more acceptable and mainstream than ever before "in this country" cause we are seeing more profits from it and until everyone gets their cut the stigma will continue.

    As a great philosopher once said:



    p.s. , I still like games from "abroad".
  • flizzerflizzer Member RarePosts: 2,438
    There very much is a stigma around gaming. I often lie to non-gaming friends about what I do.  No way can I explain to them about my interest in gaming.  In fact, I remember people who game came up once in conversation and it was followed by jokes.  Gaming and porn almost share the same space.  Although I think I am more open about porn. 
  • parpinparpin Member UncommonPosts: 220
    because games are entertainment/habit not LIFE. that is why they tell you get life....look online friends via mmos or facebook etc are good why not but how many friends you got around you in the real world??
    social life including wife/husband is = real life
    online friends=virtual life =entertainment=fun and what you do in your free time.
  • angus858angus858 Member UncommonPosts: 381

    Time spent socializing in a virtual world does not give the same advantages as time spent socializing in the real world.  When you move into a new apartment and need help getting your furniture moved, your guild-mates across the globe can't help you.  The guy down the street, who you sometimes have a beer with, can be of more assistance.

    Although I enjoy computer gaming, I do feel that the time I spend at a table with others playing board games and P&P RPG's to be more fulfilling.  Those social interactions seem to be more transferable to social interactions in other contexts, such as work.  The only advantage of social gaming in a virtual world is the ease of access.  Logging on to a mmorpg is less work than any other option.

    As for stigmas, though, any sort of gaming seems to be considered unsavory by non-gamers.  I will sooner admit to my computer gaming than my table-top D&D gaming to someone I just met.

  • WizardryWizardry Member LegendaryPosts: 17,970
    edited November 2015
    Having been a pure jock at one time and conforming to video games because i could no longer go to work injured or exhausted,i have seen both sides of the fence.

    I can tell you straight up that gaming is actually really bad for you unless done in very low moderation.

    The reason is very simple,sitting in a chair for hours on end causes very poor blood flow,it leads to heart disease and in early stages can just cause poor breathing,circulation problems and high blood pressure.

    Then on the flip side athletics can be very healthy,even if you put injury aside,it still gives your body all you need especially if you have a day office job.I now workout at the local YMCA and i can tell you it is a craze.tons of people of all shapes and sizes are starting to take health seriously.

    The problem is and yes i was young at one time,is that you feel invincible,you feel screw the future,that is a long way away.Well people it comes faster than you think and the damage you do to your body before that time comes can be devastating.

    I am likely one of the very earliest gamer's,so i got their first and i wish i could reverse my early decisions in life.The young kids i see now are even worse,they now game for many hours at a time without even a break.Likely long after i am dead this new wave of gamer will set the world on fire with news on poor health and gaming,so i see it as several years yet before people wake up and learn the hard way.

    Never forget 3 mile Island and never trust a government official or company spokesman.

  • WizardryWizardry Member LegendaryPosts: 17,970
    On the same note,i am sure many have seen the gamer Tay Zonday,he has quite the interesting personality.Anyhow point is this guy often times stands while he is gaming,i immediately gave that guy a clap,one of the very few smart people taking steps early in life before it becomes a problem.

    Never forget 3 mile Island and never trust a government official or company spokesman.

  • GaendricGaendric Member UncommonPosts: 623
    Life is about enjoying life. Thus doing something you enjoy isn't a waste of time, but rather the opposite.
    Now, obviously, the entertainment habits shouldn't interfere with securing and maintaining a comfortable and hopefully somewhat healthy way of life. (otherwise you destroy the long-term enjoyability and thus are counter productive in terms of how much enjoyment you'll get out of it overall)

  • AntiquatedAntiquated Member RarePosts: 1,415
    edited November 2015
    It is my belief the gamers need a less sedentary hobby. But that's between you and your doctor. (Hopefully, before a medical Major Event, rather than after.)

    Other than that, not really much effect on "life."

    But socially, turn it on its head--"Do you commonly tell someone you've recently met that you're a gamer? Your boss? Why or why not?" Answer it honestly, and you have an answer to the thread.
  • alkarionlogalkarionlog Member EpicPosts: 3,409
    Gdemami said:
    "Get a life" isn't a refrence to gaming being something "not real" but it points to fact that your gaming habits are likely excessive - you are losing touch with reality, taking your hobby too seriously, you should spent your spare time with some other activites as well.


    Does gaming cause "damage"? Well, you missed the reference, what does it tell?
    you know you pretty much describe soccer and football fanatics lol
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  • IselinIselin Member LegendaryPosts: 14,538
    mgilbrtsn said:
    On gaming forums, a popular refrain is 'Get a life' or 'go kiss a girl' or 'leave the house'.  Do you believe that playing video games is less of a valid pursuit than sports, or clubbing or other 'real life' social interactions?  There seems to be a social stigma to those who get their social and interpersonal connections through the computer.  Does it matter where you get them.

    IMO, if a person is happy with playing online MMOs or other video games and it fills his need of social interaction, then he has 'a life.'  Why do people have the need to denigrate this?

    Do you believe people who spend their time in virtual environments damaged or somehow stunted because of this?
    It's a generational transition kind of thing and it's certainly not as bad as it was 30 years ago when it was the main form of recreation for only very few. FB and smart phones sort of put the nail in the coffin for the type of thinking that there is something wrong with gaming.

    Sure there are still some old fogeys who think this way while thinking that being a sports fanatic is somehow better but they're the minority now.

    Hey, rock n roll went through this in the 50's too :)
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  • HabitualFrogStompHabitualFrogStomp Member UncommonPosts: 370
    lol Clubbing is not a "pursuit" well if it is for anyone they need to get a freakin life.

    Ultimately I don't think it matters too much. Maybe you were watching Matrix or Blade back in the day with all the club scenes and thinking "man I wish I was cool enough to go to places like that". Well those people probably feel more miserable than you do when they come home and are alone with themselves.

    Athletes pay just as heavy a toll with their bodies, depending on how far they take it. Do you think NFL players are more healthy than you? lol They mortgage their bodies and get a lot of money out of it, that's true, but when the game has milked the last bit of vigor they have left in them, their bodies are wrecked. Many never fully recover.

    If you can sit there gaming and be perfectly comfortable in your own skin, then other people will know that and not harass you about it much. They'll also know if you aren't comfortable with it and some will seek to cut you down. It's on you either way.
  • CalexCalex Member UncommonPosts: 99
    Who gives a shit about what others think you should be doing. If you enjoy what you are doing just do it. If you live your life worrying about what everyone else thinks about you, you may have other issues.
  • GruntyGrunty Member EpicPosts: 8,657
    I'm not the first to say this. 

    I play computer games. I don't have one life. I have many lives.
    "I used to think the worst thing in life was to be all alone.  It's not.  The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone."  Robin Williams
  • fivorothfivoroth Member UncommonPosts: 3,916
    edited November 2015
    Gaming is a hobby. I play games and I still go clubbing, do sports, hang out with friends etc. If you get all your social interaction through games then I can't understand that and I think you do need to get a life. 

    We just had this discussion last night. One of our friends constantly doesn't come for drinks or whatever else we are doing because he's playing the latest game on his ps4, now it's fallout.

    to me that's weird. Gaming is something you do in your spare time for example when you get back home and you want to chill out you watch movies, tv series or play games etc. Gaming shouldn't take over your life.

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  • cameltosiscameltosis Member EpicPosts: 2,662
    I don't think there is anything wrong with gaming in general, in fact, I find it to be the superior form of entertainment and I think playing games has lost most of it's stigma. 


    However, being a gamer is very much associated with a large time commitment to gaming. The more time spent gaming, the less time you have for other things and it is important to have a good balance in your life.

    If all you do is work and game then I'm happy for a stigma to be attached to it. There is stigma attached to smoking (it kills you), there is stigma attached to drinking too much (it kills you), there is stigma attached to doing drugs (most of them kill you), there is stigma attached to eating crap food (makes you fat and kills you) so why not have a stigma attached to a very unhealthy lifestyle choice (spending too much time gaming). 
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