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I've been playing MMO's for a long time and i've played alot, this game can be extremely in depth or extremely simple. It is what you make it. I started MMO's with UO first day of release then I played eve a little after it first came out and loved it, but i needed a break so I played CoH, and i loved that too, but then i got bored and went back to eve and i love it all over again. You can go from WoW or CoH or whatever to Eve you just gotta do a little research first.
A. ACTUALLY PAY ATTENTION IN THE TUTORIAL I cant stress this enough. Most people just breeze through it and dont listen to it, then get all frustrated later. I dont expect anyone to memorize everything in the tutorial, I just feel that you need to really read and listen to what is being taught and it will make your beginnings in Eve soooooo much easier.
B. Read the stickied threads on this forum.
C. Ask in the help channel if you don't see somthing in the forum you need help with.
D. Join a Corp ASAP. To do this, go to the recruitment channel and read some of the adverts that pop up every once in awhile from different corps, or go to this thread.
E. If you want to get into PVP ASAP I would recommend joining a training corp. There are quite a few around, NBSI Academy is the first that comes to mind. Once again read the recruitment threads.
Contrary to popular belief, you DO NOT need 6 months of experience to play PVP. There is a learning curve so be patient... the biggest ship rarely wins. Its all about tactics, and you can only learn that by doing it or flying with experienced pilots. PvP wise you can be in a tackler frig in a couple days, and every gate camp/pirate team/pvp corp needs alot of tacklers. This game does require some amount of maturity though, and it can be hard on you. But with greater risk comes greater reward. If you like to have everything handed to you and to know everything in the first few days then this isn't the game for you. I learn somthing new every day, and i've been playing for about a year overall. Also for maximum enjoyment in the early stages, I would not recommend training all learning skills to 5 right off the bat . It is good for the long term, but extremely boring. What I like to do is train fun skills (i.e. skills that make things go BOOM) while Im playing, then when I go to log off for the night or I know I wont be back for any length of time I train utility skills like learning. This way you have fun, and you will get your learning skills eventually.
PVP in this game is more hardcore than any other game imo... it comes down to who's smarter and better prepared for that particular place and time, and you're dealing with real loss, rather than other games where you just gotta work off a small penalty by doing what you would have been doing anyways.
Now when it comes to long boring travel, use Insta Bookmarks (its all in the forums). Alot of times whole sets are supplied by your corp or you can make them yourself. And once you get into low sec, traveling takes on a whole new definition of exciting. A pirate gate camp can be waiting around every corner, and if you're sharp there are alot of ways to avoid/escape/run them.
As for grinding, you dont really have to grind to make it in this game. Its so open ended its not even funny. One way to make good money is to run missions up to lvl 3, after you hit lvl 3 it becomes challenging and prosperous. (I agree that lvl 1 & 2 missions are boring but there are ways to get to lvl 3 faster, look in the forums) Im a PVP player, but its usually a money losing venture, so to keep my bank account up I run missions for awhile. PVP for fun, Missions (although still fun) for isk. If you dont like the real time skill lvling and you want to work your way up faster, then take the isk that you made from missions/mining/trade/complexes etc. and buy some implants. These will make your skills train even faster There you just effectively worked your skills up higher than the other guy faster by working on your character.
When it comes down to it though, Eve really isn't for everyone (thank god). Luckily the griefers, exploiters, and small minded of the world will not have the attention span for this game, which is why the community is so great. It all comes down to a philosophy that applies to some people in this world, many of whom will never accomplish anything of substance in life. "If somthing is hard to do, its not worth doing."