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Ok, here goes. From what I have seen on here, there is a diverse age group that frequents this forum.
I have been divorced for 10 years and swore I would never get involved again. I dont think I know what love feels like anymore, for that matter whether I have ever been in love. I met this woman about a month ago and have been seeing her on a regular basis, like lunch, dinners and a few pubs. I just cant seem to get her off my mind. I have never wanted to see a woman more than a few times before, but for some reason, this one is different.
We havent really been intimate, well.......maybe a little. I didnt want to just hop in the sack with her, I wanted to just be around her. She seems to feel the same way. Oh, BTW she is 47. What does love really feel like? Am I just infatuated with her? She is a very beautiful woman in all aspects. I know it sounds strange coming from a 55 yr old. I drink hard, ride hard and can be a little rough at times, but this woman seems to tame me in some way......WTF.
What is love? What kind of physical feelings do you get?
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Serious answer to come later (shit I'm late, aaah!)
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I would suppose its about what your feeling.. however its not to be confused with the Puppy love that most feel when they begin dating at first. Infatuated wanting to please her at every turn wanting to be romanic thing you do that are out of the ordinary usually mean you have feelings for an individual just be carful that its true and if you have to ask what is love im going to doubt your in it at this point. You could be just most usually know that there IN LOVE not just puppy love. i hope that help my friend
And good luck with your lady friend![image](http://images.mmorpg.com/images/emoticons/emt_biggrin.gif)
Maybe you really know when you are friends asmuch as lovers.
I don't know but that would be my best shot.
Be carefull tho, one thing I know for sure is that women do not equal freedom. It's obvious that you don't want boundaries in your lifestyle.
She'll most likely accept your lifestyle as a a part of you. But at a surdent point the two of you will have to compromise.
Personally I drink alot. Sometimes I can sit up all night listening to music, drinking and smoking. I love it and it's never been an issue for me but Theresa has some bad experiences in her family so I had to cut it down.
Anyway. I think you should go for it and take one step at a time. You don't regret things you did do.
One issue I found out is that her Dad drank allot. She doesnt smoke or drink and she is a hardcore Christian. She keeps telling me that she doesnt know how to tell her family about me. OMG
If you feel you'd literally give your life for this person, then yea that'd be love. If not, it's a crush.
And there you have it. If you two work it out that has got to be love.
Lol, awesome couple
Well, I hate to hurt anyone. It doesnt matter to me about my feelings. Hell, I have been thru 3 marriages. She has been divorced for a year and was married for 27 years to one man!! Thats a long f**kng time. Sheesh.
She has only been with two men her whole life and I lost count when I was 18....LOL
I dont know...this whole thing scares me.
Dont go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. (Mark Twain)
You are right. Now-a-days you have to be real careful. I have made it 55 years disease free, thank god. I still cant fathom having a woman around all the time. The family gatherings, CHURCH???.....yea right, being yelled at to take the garbage out, telling me to be careful riding my motorcycle, you drink too much, why dont you quit smoking?, you care for your video games more than me, you dont love me anymore, PMS, I saw you looking at her, who is ???? on your IM?, ..................ACCCKKK.......I dont know man....all this stuff goes thru my mind.
You are right. Now-a-days you have to be real careful. I have made it 55 years disease free, thank god. I still cant fathom having a woman around all the time. The family gatherings, CHURCH???.....yea right, being yelled at to take the garbage out, telling me to be careful riding my motorcycle, you drink too much, why dont you quit smoking?, you care for your video games more than me, you dont love me anymore, PMS, I saw you looking at her, who is ???? on your IM?, ..................ACCCKKK.......I dont know man....all this stuff goes thru my mind.
If it is love and is meant to be, those things will work out
for themselves. My mother and father have been married for 30 years, one
goes to church every Sunday and the other goes to church twice a year, and they
work out. Take out the trash on time and she won't have to yell out
you. You WANT someone to want you to be careful on your bike and to not
drink too much and to quit smoking. If you play your game right, you
could possibly get her to appreciate video games as well (and to appreciate you
being at home playing video games instead of out on the street riding your
motorcycle drunk while smoking). Not every woman suffers from PMS in the
same way (my PMS symptoms are that I get really really horny and cuddly).
etc.etc.
Quit worrying and just let yourself love already.
I've been with my husband for 12 years, and I am in love. I knew I was in
love when I could never get enough of having him around, and thought about him
all the time when he wasn't around. 12 years later, we still miss each
other when we are at work and actually IM and text message and call each other
off and on all day long.
You know you are in love when even if you aren't talking to each other or
interacting necessarily, you are very content to just know that she in the same
room as you. When she is your best friend and yor best lover at the same
time. When you can have conversations with her while you (or she) is on
the toilet. When you can't imagine being without her.
It makes me a little sad to hear that you've made it this far in life without
truly experiencing love before. But better late than never, I say!
to me love is the internet and some hand lotion.
I've been in love 5 times by my count.
Obsession and infatuation is a healthy sign. However I have been obsessed hundreds of times more than I have been in love. (Standardly any barmaid that pours me a drink becomes the object of my fantasies).
Here's a little story about one time that I wasn't in love. It's a classic story and once you recognise the stereo type you can watch your friends doing it too.
I met this girl and her mate in a nightclub, friends of friends we were all having drunken laughs in the same area. After the nightclub about 10 of the revellers returned to a friends house for all night drinking.
She was looking at me, and I was looking at her. At about 10 am we snuck off for sex at my place. Very drunken sex, not the best sex as mr winky wasn't immensly functional after a bottle of JD but fun nevertheless.
Up until that point, I hadn't had a girlfriend for at least two years, knowing me, probably more. I continued to see her for about the next two weeks, despite ringing her up and being keen to go and meet her, I'd take her flowers, chase her down, wait for her after work and generally look forward to seeing her all day. The sex however just got worse and worse. I would come as fast as I could and then go to sleep. Her friends bought her a sex toy.
After about 2 weeks we stopped seeing each other. Since then I have seen this pattern again and again in other mates.
I hadn't had a girlfriend for a really long time, so the first girl that paid me any attention I "fell in love" with. I'm permanently obsessed with one girl or another, but it's not often the girl i fancy fancies me. Despite being pleased to be in love, it was the kind of love that is based more on desperation and low self esteem more than anything else.
Since then, I have the nookie test. If while shagging it is my driving desire that the sex must be so good for her that she will want to come back tomorrow, then I am in love. In the end you can't fake the chemistry. If all I'm doing is trying to get off, we don't have it. If all I'm doing is trying to get her off, we do.
Currently I am love. How do I know I am in love? Mostly I have made a conscious decision to be so. I like all that romance stuff. I enjoy it. If I am not in love I am looking to be. When I am not in love, things are less emotional. Lassie movies don't make me cry (as much). Overly flirty or sexually predatory girls don't make me feel guilty. I also never suffer from jealousy or paranoia. When I am in love, the stone cold killer in me takes a complete holiday and I want things to turn out well for everybody, even my darkest enemies..
A girl I don't love is unable to frustrate me to the point of screaming with her nonsense, because ultimatly I don't care if she pisses off.
Essentially, time will tell.
Anyway, does she dip?
Well man. First, this is probably not the best forum to put posts like this since there's plenty of kids here who haven't even been in love yet. Then again what do I know, the average age here may be 35.
I would say it seems like you're pretty much on the same page about your life and your feelings. The fact that you have been divorsed for 10 years means nothing. I think you can fall in and out of love at any point in your life. It just happens more often when you're young.
It seems like you're doing everything right and don't be afraid, it's better to spend at least a few years with someone after being alone for so long, than to stay alone.
Good luck,
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I don't know how much my personal experience is relavent to you because of my age, but to me love is when you lose all selfishness towards a person and get everything you want/need just simply by being around them. Ya, it sounds corny, but that's the way I feel around my girlfriend. I don't really think the actual feeling of love can be described in one way, though, because I think it's different for everyone. All I know is I am happier around my girlfriend than I am anywhere else, and to me that's love.
I think it's good, though, that you are cautious. The worst thing you can do for a relationship is jump into it, and acknowledging the possible problems before you make any real steps is the best way to not be suprised and jump right back out of a relationship.
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I'm 20 , i've been in love once. I had a long time relationship with a girl for 3 yrs and was engaged. WHen i step back. it wasnt worth it at this young of an age. But i just read your post and you may have found your match man... Just go with what feels right man!
aaron
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Your argument is like a two legged dog with an eating disorder...weak and unbalanced.