So it seems that i (the black sheep as it were) have actually turned out to be the 1 child of 3 that has made something of himself through self reliance and a kickass workethic.
Before i get into a rant let me tell you about myself.
Ill be as honest as possible.Im not educated in the halls of higher learning but ive a feeling i will be going to school soon as im at a crossroads in my life.
Ive worked hard my whole life as ive been on my own since 16 and have never really asked for any help whatsover from my parents or otherwise.At this point in my life i now have a wife whom i love very much,and now even more because she gave me my beautiful daughter who just turned 3.I live in a fairly nice part of town for middle class and my mother in law lives with us too.
Now then on to the hate.
My brother is a Sociopath
.I talk to this loser twice a year and only if i have to.Thanksgiving and New year's.He has 2 kids and is divorced.His exwife isnt much better.His kids are headed down a road that sickens me to no end.His now 14 year old son has needed braces for his teeth for 6 years running.
Here is what he did XMAS morning 3 years ago.We go to my parents house XMAS morning for breakfast and to open presents.This takes most of the frickin day as my control freak of a dad hands out the damn presents 1 at a time.I really hate this as i would really really really LOVE to just stay home and not do a damn thing.We are ususally there for at least 6 hours and (did i mention this) i frickin hate it.
ANYWAY>>>After the presnts are opened my brother says "i need to leave".Ok im thinking where the hell are you going?After all its CHRISTMAS DAY your whole family is HERE.Not only did he leave to take presnts to the woman's kids he met on the internet but he didnt even get his OWN kids anything for Christmas.So my father has to take his son's kids to meet the exwife at the local mall parking lot.Turns out my brother told my dad the wrong time to meet her there and he had to wait for 2 hours on her.
Yeah it was a merry xmas that year.
This is the socalled man that to this day my father puts up on a pedestal.
God i hate my family.
Now then on to my sister and her "special child".(thats the worst ill say about her kid)
So my sister has a kid with this crackhead,alchoholic F%^&*@G
redneck whom i will forever be connected to because she cant keep her legs together.So my sister is mid 40's now.Every relationship she has ever had has been with a married man.Im not shittin you here folks every 1 of them.This includes the current father of her child.
So the day im moving out my mom and dad are attending a damn college football game.No big deal i planned it that way.I had an apartment to move into as well as a good job AND finishing high school.So she is living at home as well and she is in her mid 20's at the time.
So im actually making her look bad by gettin the hell out at 16 right?
Well i had some pot that i was looking forward to when i got settled in for the night.Inbetween 1 of the trips back and forth the bitch stole it from me.I called her out.It went like this:"Give me my pot or i will tell mom and dad your current boyfriend(whom they had met and loved to death)is married and has 2 kids."
She told them the next day.
So here is what really gets to me now.
I live a Tenth of a mile from my mother and father.They never call me they never come to see their 3 year old granddaughter who talks about them ALL THE FRICKING TIME!!!
It absolutley tears my heart out.
My sister on the other hand lives 55 miles away.They have her kid every weekend.Without going into detail my sister is not married and owns her business.So everytime my mom and dad want keep her little brat she is more than happy to let them do it.She will even drive down here to drop her off.Everytime i think i can get my daughter some 1 on 1 bonding time with grandma guess who is there.
So yeah i hate my family.If i could move to the other side of the world i would.
I have talked to my parents on several occasions about this.Its one of the real life conversations that you cant beleive you have to have.The reason they give is this:"Since your sister is not married we feel it is our duty to provide a more stable environment for our grandaughter.Part of this is making sure she has a father figure."
I understand this concept.Really i do.
1.My dad is NOT my niece's father.
2.By doing this my daughter loses out on having a grandfather and a grandmother.
On the other hand my wife's family is so close and loving it is amazing.My wife's cousin and her husband and son are the godparents and "god brother" for my daughter.Without my wife's family i wouldnt know what to do.
So there ya go.I had to rant somewhere and i figured this was as good a place as any.Is there anyone else in this situation out there?How did you handle it?
More specifficaly: im considering writing my mom and dad a letter.But ive always felt regret about things being said or written down as they come back to bite ya on the ass.
In hindsite my mom amd dad have been less and less supportive of anything i do in the last few years.Oh did i mention im the ONLY naturally born kid in my family?Yup the other 2 adopted.
Thanks for any advice you guys got for me.
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