I know -- the title sounds trashy. But it's me, after taking a long hard look at what I want in a game now. It doesn't have to be an MMORPG.
What I want is a game where I can do my own thing and there are other players around. I want to have progression and I don't mind solo grind, but I hate dungeons and raids and having to do this or that pve experience repeatedly to get certain must-have pieces of gear. I don't like being locked out of progression by group content.
I like pvp, but I want it to be consensual.
I wouldn't mind doing group content if I had RL friends that played mmos, but I don't. I don't mind being in a casual guild, but I don't want a game that is guild up or go home. I don't like the "in game, in TS" kind of situation. I don't mind scheduled activities, but I don't want to be "on call" every time I log in.
I love games where progression is based on skilling up (skill points, skill trees, etc.) rather than gear level. I love exploration and crafting.