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Are MMO's worth the sacrifice?

CordenCorden Member UncommonPosts: 68

Well, I've been debating about whether to resume MMO's as a hobby for some time. I've gone over it quite a bit in my head, but before I make my final decision, I wanted to get advice from those a little older or wiser than I.

 

Basically it's like this: I started MMO's in mid 2004 with SWG. I loved the game and then continued on to others. I mainly played WoW, but also just about every other major release for at least a month or so. MMO's dominated my life from the time I was 15 to 24 years old. I had pretty much no social life outside the games. A large part of this was because I was home schooled so I lived a pretty solitary life style as a teen.

Anyways, just trying to give a summary of the details so you can see where I'm coming from. Basically, starting last year, I did what I thought I could never do and quit the MMO's, got my GED and got a job in retail which I've had for the last eight months.

 

Here's where I'm at now: I've been missing the MMO's constantly since I've quit. I don't miss the useless and complete waste of time grind that so many MMO's embody, but what I really do miss are the other geeks, and I admit, part of me would love to get lost in a fantasy world and RP with others.  While I've made friends at my job, I don't really hang out with them at all outside of work. I just don't have all that much in common with them.

 

The thing is, I'm 25 years old now, and I really want to go to college, but I know there's little chance of being able to work 35+ hours a week, attend college, AND play an MMO. 

Should I accept that MMO's are a part of me and it's worth sacrificing other opportunities for? Should I try and balance all three? Or maybe I'm just scared of going to school and using MMO's as a crutch to attempt to get out of it for the time being?

I know this is a long, boring, meandering post, but I noticed that a lot of you guys on here are older, and probably more experienced, than I, but also MMO advocates, so you probably understand my passion for the hobby unlike most others.

My gut is telling me to ditch the MMO hobby once and for all or at least until I'm through with school, but my passion speaks differently. 

Anyone have any insight at all?

Thanks in advance.

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  • nariusseldonnariusseldon Member EpicPosts: 27,775

    Think about the future. Ask yourself this .. if you spend lots of time in MMOs and miss going to college, will you regret it?

    Will you believe then that whatever time you spend in a MMO is a waste?

    You can only answer those questions for yourself.

    Personally, games are no where close to as important to me as career and family. So my answer, if I were you, would be obvious. However, that is me .. you have to find the answer yourself.

     

  • Flyte27Flyte27 Member RarePosts: 4,574
    I don't believe MMOs now are any sacrifice.  They are mostly single player games.  You can optionally do PvP in instances.  The downside is they are generally not worth playing.  It's why the retention rate is so low in MMOs these days and why they always seem to go free to play.  You don't feel any attachment to any of them.
  • iridescenceiridescence Member UncommonPosts: 1,552
    Originally posted by Corden

     

     

    Should I accept that MMO's are a part of me and it's worth sacrificing other opportunities for? Should I try and balance all three? Or maybe I'm just scared of going to school and using MMO's as a crutch to attempt to get out of it for the time being?

    Obviously no game is worth sacrificing your real life future for.  Real life should come first. Seems like you probably should have some free time even with school and work so you should have the option of playing games in moderation (perhaps at a cost to your non-gaming social life though). You probably know yourself better than others do though. If you don't think you can play MMOs in moderation might be best to avoid them.

     

     

     

  • afriaenafriaen Member Posts: 3

    Hello Corden

     

    You are probably stuck between what you would like to do (play mmo's a LOT ;) ) and what you think you should do (what others say is right to do).

     

    Now I do not believe in morality as a mental exercise that tells us how we should live, to me the force that naturally drives human beings is enjoyment. enjoyment basically tells us what is good for us. 

     

    BUT where the problem lays with enjoyment is ATTACHMENT. Attachment actually is a perversion of enjoyment and stems from our fear to not enjoy: to suffer. it makes us to want to stuck to what we remember  that gave us pleasure and we don't want to let go anymore, we get stuck in it.

     

    As soon attachment comes in then enjoyment is not leading us anymore to what is good for us.

     

    So what i suggest is that you follow your heart, without getting stuck, that is, do everything you like to do, not only mmo's. Don;t let one enjoyment make you forget about the other things you enjoy.

     

    If you take everything softly, lightheartedly this wont happen. don't be rigid, just follow your heart without becoming extreme.

     

    Do it like when you where a small kid: you play. not to run from things, not to hide, not to avoid life, but simply to play and to enjoy. if you approach mmo's in that way, everything is cool :)

     

    that is my humble opinion.

     

    it is your path, your life, your life to enjoy, only you will find your way

     

    good luck and ENJOY 

     

    afriaen

     

  • CordenCorden Member UncommonPosts: 68

    I appreciate the replies guys, and you helped me make up my mind.

     

    I know what's best for me, and I know I need to go to school. As much as I long for the times of being 17 and carefree on my games, I'm not 17 anymore and the guilt alone would kill me if I trade off college for MMO's. If I could freeze time and not age for another five years, I would probably play like a mad man for a year or two and join a guild, RP, PvP, raid.. But it's not worth the trade off, or time invested in the end.

    In reality, I PvP'ed, did dungeons, and enough grinding to last a life time. The only thing I really regret is I never got to RP more. It was the one activity I never did much. Perhaps I'll just find a forum or some such so I can finally give it go without time sink of the MMO's them selves. 

     

    Again, thanks guys.  If even other MMO's are telling me that they don't think it's worth it, then I know it's time to move on. As much as I love MMO's, I know I'll kick myself so hard when I'm in my 30's if I'm still stuck in a retail job because I chose a MMOing over education. I'll play my single player games here and there which I can moderate when I get the gaming itch, but I think I'm closing the MMO chapter at least until I'm done with school if not for good.

    Guess I won't be coming to these forums much anymore.

     

    Take care all.

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  • QuizzicalQuizzical Member LegendaryPosts: 25,347

    I'd like to submit that you're looking at this all wrong.  You can't generically go to college.  You can only go to a particular college in pursuit of a particular degree.  If you want to get a worthwhile degree from a worthwhile university and want to graduate in 4-5 years, that's a full-time job in itself.  You're not going to be able to do that and work 35 hours per week at a job unrelated to college unless you love both your job and being a student, and even then it would be rough.  And if you were so academically inclined, I'd question why you didn't go to college around the age of 18.  To spend most of your waking hours working on things you dislike just doesn't work.  Humans simply aren't built for that, and you've only got so much energy, even at your young age.

    What you really don't want to do is to sacrifice a bunch to go to college for a year or two, drop out, and have nothing to show for it but a bunch of debt.  Another thing that you really don't want to do is to go to college, graduate with a degree in the Useless Studies (pro tip:  if a major has the word "studies" in the name, it's probably useless), have made major sacrifices to get there, and be no better off for having a useless degree.

    If the problem is that you had the aptitude to be good at academics but foolishly didn't put in the effort, but are more mature now, then going to college now may make sense for you.  But if you were never much good at academics, that's not likely to change now, and if you were to go to college, you probably wouldn't graduate with a worthwhile degree.

    If college does make sense for you, you'll almost certainly need to choose between being a full time student and holding a full time job, while only being part time on the other.  Some colleges do make it possible to be a half-time student and take 8 years to graduate.

    Notice that I haven't yet talked about MMORPGs.  That's because it isn't terribly relevant to the above discussion.  What you need to be able to do is to play computer games in your free time but never have them take priority over something else.  If you weren't going to be working or studying anyway, there's nothing wrong with playing computer games if the realistic alternative is watching television.

    But what's very, very important is that you need to be able to play games for half an hour or an hour or whatever and then quit and go do something else.  Or some days, not play at all because you're too tired or too busy or whatever.  Six-hour marathon gaming sessions are okay once in a great while, but not the sort of thing that you can do every day if you want to be a responsible adult.  You don't need to abandon MMORPGs entirely unless your personality is that once you start, you can't stop.

    The good news is that MMORPGs are far more human-friendly in this regard than they were a decade ago.  A lot of games will let you play for a bit, then stop, come back the next day, and pick up where you left off.  Or the next week.  Or the next month.  Endgame raiding would probably be out for you, but most of the rest of most MMORPGs is accessible to a responsible adult, so long as you're willing to progress more slowly than the people who live in the game.

  • TbauTbau Member, Newbie CommonPosts: 401

    Or you could allow yourself to learn something you will eventually have to learn anyway.

    How to control yourself.

    So, you fell victim to playing way too often and didn't learn how to stop. Whats to prevent you from falling to parting too much in College? Drinking too much? become addicted to drugs? Becoming a work-a-holic?

    Everything in life, no matter what it is, is bad for you if you don't moderate and control it.

    So learn that just playing an MMO does not mean you must spend countless hours playing it, take control of your life with it and no longer feel that you cant control yourself in that aspect and punch life in the face knowing that you can overcome your weaknesses and nothing will stop you from achieving what you want in life.

    Learn now, while you are still young. MMOs are an easy thing to conqueror if you actually want to and it will boost your confidence on top of it. Also, learn to look at your mistake as what you needed at that point in your life and now you want more, and you WILL get it.

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  • CordenCorden Member UncommonPosts: 68
    Originally posted by Quizzical

    I'd like to submit that you're looking at this all wrong.  You can't generically go to college.  You can only go to a particular college in pursuit of a particular degree.  If you want to get a worthwhile degree from a worthwhile university and want to graduate in 4-5 years, that's a full-time job in itself.  You're not going to be able to do that and work 35 hours per week at a job unrelated to college unless you love both your job and being a student, and even then it would be rough.  And if you were so academically inclined, I'd question why you didn't go to college around the age of 18.  To spend most of your waking hours working on things you dislike just doesn't work.  Humans simply aren't built for that, and you've only got so much energy, even at your young age.

    That's an excellent question. I don't want to bore you with too many details, but basically, as young child, I had a short attention span and my mother was the only one who taught me, as I said I was home schooled, and after about fifth grade, she pretty much gave up on teaching me. There was no competition with other students or being chastised by a teacher, so I had little motivation as an 11 year old to study. I didn't realize the importance of it. I basically lived in another world where my next door neighbor and I would just play pretend all day with Star Wars figures, Sonic figures, etc. So to answer your question, I'm not really sure if I'm academically inclined or not. I had the motivation to teach myself enough to get my GED, but outside of that, I really don't know. As I said, I lived in a fantasy world pretty much my whole life until recently. Heck, it felt totally weird even socializing with people outside of the online world when I first started my new job. I'd never been in a position like that before. 

    What you really don't want to do is to sacrifice a bunch to go to college for a year or two, drop out, and have nothing to show for it but a bunch of debt.  Another thing that you really don't want to do is to go to college, graduate with a degree in the Useless Studies (pro tip:  if a major has the word "studies" in the name, it's probably useless), have made major sacrifices to get there, and be no better off for having a useless degree.

    If the problem is that you had the aptitude to be good at academics but foolishly didn't put in the effort, but are more mature now, then going to college now may make sense for you.  But if you were never much good at academics, that's not likely to change now, and if you were to go to college, you probably wouldn't graduate with a worthwhile degree.

    I would like to think maturity has something to do with it. I definitely realize, as an adult, that there's more to the world then video games and fantasy. As much as I enjoy them, I'd like to do something doesn't solely benefit myself. I'd like to make a small difference in the world, even if insignificant. Gaming is fine for entertainment, just like reading a novel or watching a TV show, but MMO's for me are more of a lifestyle. If I just missed the games them selves, I'd just play my single player games. It's socializing and competition I really miss.

    I just really feel like it's a sort of personal duty to try and live to my full potential, as cheesy as that sounds. And as much as I love MMO's, I know they'll most likely get in the way of that. Though as you also pointed out, my job may get in the way of that as well. And I'll have to think about how to best handle that. Perhaps they could cut my hours.

    I've been researching majors that I'm interested in, and it definitely excites me. I know I'm a person that would fully dedicate myself to something if I had a strong interest in it. 

    If college does make sense for you, you'll almost certainly need to choose between being a full time student and holding a full time job, while only being part time on the other.  Some colleges do make it possible to be a half-time student and take 8 years to graduate.

    Notice that I haven't yet talked about MMORPGs.  That's because it isn't terribly relevant to the above discussion.  What you need to be able to do is to play computer games in your free time but never have them take priority over something else.  If you weren't going to be working or studying anyway, there's nothing wrong with playing computer games if the realistic alternative is watching television.

    But what's very, very important is that you need to be able to play games for half an hour or an hour or whatever and then quit and go do something else.  Or some days, not play at all because you're too tired or too busy or whatever.  Six-hour marathon gaming sessions are okay once in a great while, but not the sort of thing that you can do every day if you want to be a responsible adult.  You don't need to abandon MMORPGs entirely unless your personality is that once you start, you can't stop.

    The good news is that MMORPGs are far more human-friendly in this regard than they were a decade ago.  A lot of games will let you play for a bit, then stop, come back the next day, and pick up where you left off.  Or the next week.  Or the next month.  Endgame raiding would probably be out for you, but most of the rest of most MMORPGs is accessible to a responsible adult, so long as you're willing to progress more slowly than the people who live in the game.

     

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  • CordenCorden Member UncommonPosts: 68


    Originally posted by Tbau Or you could allow yourself to learn something you will eventually have to learn anyway. How to control yourself. So, you fell victim to playing way too often and didn't learn how to stop. Whats to prevent you from falling to parting too much in College? Drinking too much? become addicted to drugs? Becoming a work-a-holic? Everything in life, no matter what it is, is bad for you if you don't moderate and control it. So learn that just playing an MMO does not mean you must spend countless hours playing it, take control of your life with it and no longer feel that you cant control yourself in that aspect and punch life in the face knowing that you can overcome your weaknesses and nothing will stop you from achieving what you want in life. Learn now, while you are still young. MMOs are an easy thing to conqueror if you actually want to and it will boost your confidence on top of it. Also, learn to look at your mistake as what you needed at that point in your life and now you want more, and you WILL get it.
      You definitely bring up some good points. Last year, when I realized that I couldn't control myself, I finally made the decision to quit MMOing (At the time all gaming, but I've since started playing offline games again.) all together. While rather insignificant achievements in them selves, for me, just getting my GED and getting a job (I really debated on whether to go to school before getting the job, but I was 24 years old with no work experience and no contacts or references what so ever, so I knew I couldn't be 28 or 29 years old graduating from college with no work experience which is why I decided to become employed before going to school.) were monumental for me, even though I was still woefully behind for me age. The point is, self control is definitely something I had issues with before. But it's true, I'm not trying to escape the real world anymore, so I probably would have more self control.


    Originally posted by greenreen It's possible to do all things at once. I worked, went to college, and still gamed while being in a relationship. Graduated Highest Honors too. The relationship though did end about 3 mos. before graduation but we were together maybe 6 mos. before I started college. Worst part was seeing them in school more than anything else because when I went so did they so we had selected seats with each other in every place lol They didn't show up for graduation, I have no clue what happened there if they just didn't attend the ceremony or didn't get enough credits - we weren't speaking any longer. The relationship is the one that asks for the most attention from my perspective. They want to see you and do things when you just want to relax. School will have you reading a lot. Learn to read fast if you don't and you have to concentrate while doing it. Reading out loud slows you down but can help if you are tired and you will be lots of times. Going to school while working alone is a test of your energy level and it's something you can leverage down the line to say - see I'm a hard worker.  You can't hardcore game but you get over it. Knowing you will get the degree is worth something. If you do go to college, make sure you take any internship you can get even if it's unpaid. It often turns into a job and too many people don't take them having nothing for their portfolio. I won a contest in college to do work for a not for profit on a company's dime because they liked my suggestions best from the other participants. That also got put on my resume. Take advantage of all the school can do for you before you go because a degree isn't that impressive years down the road in my field, IT. Things change so often you have to constantly keep reading too so yeah - once you choose a career expect all gaming time to be reduced unless you choose to sacrifice other things for it like relationships. Right now I like the position I'm in - no kids - no relationship - work when I want - sleep when I want - game when I want - I have a lot of freedom and college helped that but so did extra effort like taking on the project and my internship.   
     

    I'll definitely have to look into an internship. I hadn't even gotten to the point yet where these things crossed my mind. I'm glad you mentioned them, or I may have missed out.

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  • Nzscorpion80Nzscorpion80 Member UncommonPosts: 54

    Ya just need to find the balance, but never put real like investment on hold or on the back burner for a computer game that will eventually come to a end, so always invest in yaself first, college/trade skills etc are by far more valuable.

    Theres no reason why you cant play any mmo or game while at Uni, some people just dont know moderation. But mmos are just another form of entertainment, dont matter if you getting on the piss with ya mates at the pub or playing sports or computer games, just depends on if its worth the time.

     

    I work 60 hours a week, go gym & play sports & play computer games currenty rome 2 & assassins creed IV, I just make the most of my time. It would become a problem if you taking days off work or study to play the game though.

  • TbauTbau Member, Newbie CommonPosts: 401
    Originally posted by Corden

     

      You definitely bring up some good points. Last year, when I realized that I couldn't control myself, I finally made the decision to quit MMOing (At the time all gaming, but I've since started playing offline games again.) all together. While rather insignificant achievements in them selves, for me, just getting my GED and getting a job (I really debated on whether to go to school before getting the job, but I was 24 years old with no work experience and no contacts or references what so ever, so I knew I couldn't be 28 or 29 years old graduating from college with no work experience which is why I decided to become employed before going to school.) were monumental for me, even though I was still woefully behind for me age. The point is, self control is definitely something I had issues with before. But it's true, I'm not trying to escape the real world anymore, so I probably would have more self control.

     Then you are already winning the battle. Now land the final blow and remove all doubt.

    An MMO can be like any other game, played for short periods when YOU want entertainment. When you find yourself falling into playing longer and longer be sure to have a list nearby of why you don't NEED to do it.

    The gear is not worth it.

    Doing that instance yet again, for the 1000th time is not worth it.

    getting that PvP rank is not worth it.

    Having some fun with a game and then having fun in real life while being able to pay your bills, that is worth it.

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  • KyleranKyleran Member LegendaryPosts: 43,435
    My son used to love MMOs but with school, jobs, GF, he doesn't have time for them these days so he confines his gaming to LOL in short bursts these days.

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  • CordenCorden Member UncommonPosts: 68
    Originally posted by greenreen

    As for impulse control. Sometimes it can be your brain wiring so don't beat yourself up for not being in business suits and carrying a briefcase just yet but being aware of things that can sway your thoughts will always get you back into the forward thrust.

    http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=141164708

    "So the changes that happen between 18 and 25 are a continuation of the process that starts around puberty, and 18 year olds are about halfway through that process. Their prefrontal cortex is not yet fully developed. That's the part of the brain that helps you to inhibit impulses and to plan and organize your behavior to reach a goal."

     

     

    In your early twenties a big problem is peer pressure - people are going to be going all sorts of ways and try to drag you down their path because they want company. Just stick to a plan and take their words as trash because they'll chide you for not participating. Just get drunk with us, just get high, OMG you never do anything that is dangerous etc. You would not have experienced that as often with homeschooling but it's there. Everyone that wants to be your friend you don't have to be their friend, that's the only way to think of it really. This is not a story you want to repeat - know what I mean http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKasqYLlnsk Real friends don't talk you into doing things you don't want to either.

    I've already experienced that to some degree at my job. I admit, I was hoping to make some friends when I originally got the job.

    One person I met, who was around my age, wanted to go hang out after work, but then I find out all he wanted to do was go get drunk. I told him I didn't care if he drank, but just explained that I don't drink or do drugs etc, and after that he never brought up hanging out again. I'll admit, that's one of the reasons I want to go back to MMO's. Everyone at my job just seems interested in getting drunk or high all the time. Heck, just today that same guy called me "The sweetest" guy he's ever known, and I don't think he meant it as a compliment. And my boss calls me the "Alter boy".  I definitely haven't really fit in with anyone at my work so far, which, again, is why I was tempted to go back to MMO's. I miss talking with people I actually had something in common with. Social life on the outside has been a bit of a disappointment so far, but there's certainly plenty of other great things/people out there. I'm not going to let this one bad experience ruin it. That's why I'm trying to do what you recommend: Set goals and have a plan and don't let anything get in the way of those.

     

    And again, I appreciate all the helpful advice guys. I was never expecting to get so many honest and helpful answers. :)

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  • BigdaddyxBigdaddyx Member UncommonPosts: 2,039

    OP you shouldn't be even debating or contemplating this.

    Life > games. And when i say life i mean your future. You are 25 years old and this is the time to get on your feet. Trust me you will have plenty of time later on in your life to play MMOS once you are well settled in your career. 

    This is the time to struggle so do that and good luck.

  • IlliusIllius Member UncommonPosts: 4,142

    I would suggest that you pursue a higher education.  There will be time for all kinds of games and hobbies later on once you've managed to make something of yourself.

    I see you debating College as a choice and I think it's an excellent one if you are so inclined.  I would however like to ask you if you think that perhaps you might be handy?  Do you like to perhaps work with your hands or find it easier to focus in a more mechanically inclined atmosphere?

    The reason I ask this is that along with College there is also an option of becoming a Trades Person.  If you don't think that college might not be for you then consider finding an Apprenticeship in a Trade of some kind.  I went down that road and eventually became an Electrician but there are many other trades available for you to choose.  I started my apprenticeship around your age and now that I'm finished, life is starting to get a little easier.

    Just another thing for you to consider.  Once you finish some kind of school and find a job related to your field you'll start to find that there will be time for games and for a social life down the road.

    No required quests! And if I decide I want to be an assassin-cartographer-dancer-pastry chef who lives only to stalk and kill interior decorators, then that's who I want to be, even if it takes me four years to max all the skills and everyone else thinks I'm freaking nuts. -Madimorga-

  • Topic near and dear to my heart. So I'll give a quick reply.

    I to went through this conflict, but it lasted years for me. The problem is I was even considering MMOs as being on level with something like pursuing higher education, and they shouldn't be. MMOs and gaming in general should be an afterthought to real things in the real world, at least that's the conclusion that worked for me.

    During my youth all I cared about was gaming. I would happily ignore school, friends, sports, and other things if it meant a chance to spend a few more hours in my favorite MMO. I was clearly caught in the hamster wheel, I was running in place, putting lots of time and effort into MMOs, but not really doing anything with my life.

    It took a bit of a breakdown for me to finally turn things around. For me to go back to college and decide I wanted to make more then 10 dollars an hour for the rest of my life. The decision hasn't been without it's consequences as real life is way harder then any video game I ever buried myself in. Yet I've found ways to rise above the challenges and keep moving forward, I've failed a lot, but I've always picked myself back up to.

    I have my four year degree now, and a comfy job that pays me insanely well considering the work I do isn't that hard, or at least not as physically demanding as what I used to do. I do often find myself in the situation of having lots of spare money, but no free time to use it in, but I think overall I am quite happy with what I have accomplished. I may not have the free time for a MMO more then a few hours a week, but I've had so many more life experiences that it's been worth it.

  • EpiconEpicon Member Posts: 121

    I had to cut down on my time with MMOs because I wasn't getting my novel done. A 600 page novel doesn't write itself. MMOs and games for that matter, help inspire my writing, but it got to the point where I existed more in other fantasy words than my own.

    Creating your own world, your own character and getting to do whatever you want, sure is fun to conceptualize. But putting all together is a grinding, horrible chore, and it sucks. The reward is worth it.

    However all I did was scale the amount of time back, I invested in MMOs. I didn't feel I needed to quit all together, unless of course a game wasn't fun anymore. I will always make time for games over anything, that's reasonable and mentally healthy. Maybe because they help me with my art. Maybe it's because it's a nice vacation spending time in other worlds and see how they put it together. Or maybe I just feel life is too short, to give up something I really enjoy.

    Success is worth more than any game, but that doesn't mean you should have to give them up, to get it. To me it sounds like you are the type of MMO player, that has a hard time pacing yourself, and sprinkling a hour in once in awhile, or maybe a bit more. Also I feel like you were like the old me in MMOs, dumped hours and hours, into a game, because I always felt, I had to get the extra gear, do that extra raid, hang out with friends, ect. Just a guess, not a assumption.

    I don't think you should give up MMOs, there are plenty of people, who go to college, are successful and extremely busy and do just fine playing them. However, if you are the type of person, like I guessed above, who can't limit your time down to a few hours a week, and a two hour session turns into a 10 hour session and suddenly nothing is getting done. You should probably quit, and find a different genre, maybe a single player RPG.

    You could be like my friend who quit them all together, because he didn't feel like spending a couple of hours in a MMO a week, was rewarding enough. Compared to his previous unmarried self at 20 hours a week in game, with a full time job. So he just switched genres, and has a primary single player focus.

    Also keep in mind college doesn't mean success. Even if you do everything perfect and get a degree. Now, this doesn't mean I am telling you to be a uneducated slob who plays video games all day. However, all the friends and family I have in my life, all have degrees mostly. Guess what? None of them are working jobs based on what they went to school for. Most are paying off their school loans, and some of them work jobs that could have got without going to school. The one friend I have who just has a GED, is making 55 dollars a hour through a mine driving truck, and all he had to do is get his CDL. He makes more than any of the college grads.

    There are examples, of the direct opposite, but in any case, some luck is involved.

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  • MaquiameMaquiame Member UncommonPosts: 1,073
    Originally posted by Corden

    Well, I've been debating about whether to resume MMO's as a hobby for some time. I've gone over it quite a bit in my head, but before I make my final decision, I wanted to get advice from those a little older or wiser than I.

     

    Basically it's like this: I started MMO's in mid 2004 with SWG. I loved the game and then continued on to others. I mainly played WoW, but also just about every other major release for at least a month or so. MMO's dominated my life from the time I was 15 to 24 years old. I had pretty much no social life outside the games. A large part of this was because I was home schooled so I lived a pretty solitary life style as a teen.

    Anyways, just trying to give a summary of the details so you can see where I'm coming from. Basically, starting last year, I did what I thought I could never do and quit the MMO's, got my GED and got a job in retail which I've had for the last eight months.

     

    Here's where I'm at now: I've been missing the MMO's constantly since I've quit. I don't miss the useless and complete waste of time grind that so many MMO's embody, but what I really do miss are the other geeks, and I admit, part of me would love to get lost in a fantasy world and RP with others.  While I've made friends at my job, I don't really hang out with them at all outside of work. I just don't have all that much in common with them.

     

    The thing is, I'm 25 years old now, and I really want to go to college, but I know there's little chance of being able to work 35+ hours a week, attend college, AND play an MMO. 

    Should I accept that MMO's are a part of me and it's worth sacrificing other opportunities for? Should I try and balance all three? Or maybe I'm just scared of going to school and using MMO's as a crutch to attempt to get out of it for the time being?

    I know this is a long, boring, meandering post, but I noticed that a lot of you guys on here are older, and probably more experienced, than I, but also MMO advocates, so you probably understand my passion for the hobby unlike most others.

    My gut is telling me to ditch the MMO hobby once and for all or at least until I'm through with school, but my passion speaks differently. 

    Anyone have any insight at all?

    Thanks in advance.

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  • QuizzicalQuizzical Member LegendaryPosts: 25,347
    Originally posted by Corden

    One person I met, who was around my age, wanted to go hang out after work, but then I find out all he wanted to do was go get drunk. I told him I didn't care if he drank, but just explained that I don't drink or do drugs etc, and after that he never brought up hanging out again. I'll admit, that's one of the reasons I want to go back to MMO's. Everyone at my job just seems interested in getting drunk or high all the time. Heck, just today that same guy called me "The sweetest" guy he's ever known, and I don't think he meant it as a compliment. And my boss calls me the "Alter boy".  I definitely haven't really fit in with anyone at my work so far, which, again, is why I was tempted to go back to MMO's. I miss talking with people I actually had something in common with. Social life on the outside has been a bit of a disappointment so far, but there's certainly plenty of other great things/people out there. I'm not going to let this one bad experience ruin it. That's why I'm trying to do what you recommend: Set goals and have a plan and don't let anything get in the way of those.

    As you probably see, you don't really want to fit in with the people you work with.  You don't want to be a loser whose goal is to get drunk and/or high as much as possible.  You want something better.  And good for you.

    Before going back to college, I'd recommend dabbling in whatever you want to major in.  Teach yourself the material from one of the introductory courses--both to see if you can and to see if you like it.  There are lots of free resources available online, and even if you have to buy a textbook, that's vastly cheaper than college tuition.  Interests and aptitudes matter greatly, both for a college major and for a career.  If you can't handle the material or you hate it, it's better to find that out now than to accumulate tens of thousands of dollars in debt first.

    If you're going to go to college, you also want to make sure that you get a worthwhile degree.  Anything in the STEM disciplines (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math) is probably going to be valuable, even if it's from Directional State University that accepts 99% of applicants--which is probably going to be the best available to a 25-year-old with a GED.  There are worthwhile majors outside of that, but also a lot of useless ones.  Before majoring in something, make sure that it realistically leads to a career that you're interested in.  If 10,000 people graduate with some major each year and there are only jobs related to it for 1,000 of them, those jobs probably get taken by the people from elite universities--and not by you.

    Illius brings up another possibility:  going to a trade school.  That's a better option than college for a lot of people who aren't academically inclined, and it can lead to a good job.

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    You do need to have something in life that you enjoy, and not just work all the time.  It can be computer games or it can be something else, but it has to be something.  If you try to just work all the time, you'll burn out.  The key is that what you do for fun has to fit around your career, and not the other way around.

  • Righteous_RockRighteous_Rock Member RarePosts: 1,234

    Hey bud, you have heard it before, but you have to have your priorities straight.

    For the saved - God will be first,

    Then yourself, your family, your career, your friends, ...... It's your life. Keep them in line, it makes things a lot easier when you know what you should be doing next.

    You can balance it all out, it takes self discipline, but it can be done, access yourself, if you don't think you can balance it all, only keep the things you can't do without.

    Pro tip - keep things simple. 

  • TheLizardbonesTheLizardbones Member CommonPosts: 10,910

    Go to college.  In a choice between X and "Go to college", unless X is "winning the lottery and being independantly weathy", go to college.  Even if you win the lottery, go to college so you don't waste all your money on fantastically stupid things.  It will increase your odds (not a guarantee) of getting a much better job, and you will meet at least a few like minded people.

     

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    Concerning impulse control, the best advice I can give is to not be around the things that drive you off track.  If it's alcohol, just don't buy it and don't go to bars or always be the designated driver.  If it's MMOs, just don't play them.  Easier said than done, I know (from experience), but just not being around the triggers and the people that bring the triggers is the most successful way to get past something like that.

     

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  • reignfyrereignfyre Member UncommonPosts: 19

    Sacrificing college and friends for an MMO?  I'd say no, MMO's are definitely not worth the sacrifice. 

    I'd be like you if i hadn't graduated college by 2000 before the big MMO's hit.  Thank god I did not have a gaming system from high school through college or I think my life would be fucked right now.

    Of course if you do get through college and settle down, then you'll have to choose between your MMO life and having children. 

    Choosing how to spend your time will always be a bitch.

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