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Moms with young children in MMO are ticking time bombs.

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  • iamthekilleriamthekiller Member Posts: 93
    Originally posted by Schoeneck93

    I'm not going to dignify the fact that you think parents who play games in guilds are one step above child abusers with a response. 

    I mean... I don't see how you're making that connection man. It just doesn't make sense. WHO cares if this person doesn't meet all the time requirements. What if they just want to play with friends that are in the Guild, or get in on raids when they have free time? Why do they have to be to every single one? WHY? It doesn't make any sense. 

    Tell me why, don't just keep saying "Because they can't be to every single raid". Why do they have to come to every one? 

    It's legit..a form of neglect..which is also considered child abuse. If they just wanna play casual they can go join a casual guild..if they apply to a hardcore raiding guild and then don't make the raids or leave late or go afk too much..it doesn't really matter what the reason is...gkick on the spot.  And you keep asking WHY? Because it's my guild and I said so..thats a good enough reason for me.

  • RaysheRayshe Member UncommonPosts: 1,279
    Originally posted by Po_gg
    Originally posted by CalmOceans

    Anyway, let me explain myself.

    I don't have children, the guild which I'm a member of tends to be low on moms with children and we, for better or for worse, don't tend to accept moms with children after all the drama and trouble they have caused in the past in our guild.

    Before anyone gets upset, we do have two moms in our guild and they are really great players.

    However, usually moms have for whatever reason an incredibly short fuse and, while understandable, their child comes before the game, they have on most occasions been more detrimental to our guild's progress than helpful.

    It's also incredibly hard to explain to someone with a child that if they can't put the raiding first the guild might not be for them, try to explain someone with a young kid that the game should come before RL and they will flip and lose it and cause drama.

    You think we're unfair if we deny applicants just on the basis of being a mom with child, companies do this, why can't we?

    Wow, that was ... strange, and not because I'm in the target audience (I could be a dad at most :) ). To be honest this attitude is exactly why I prefer my kin / guild / fleet / cabal / etc. to have at least one of these tags: rp, casual, social, gaming, or something similar.

    "comes before the game", "they can't put the raiding first", and especially "the game should come before RL" - is it only me who started to see huge WTF signs? :) I mean I know some "live by the raid-calendar"-type dudes, but they're still around 20 and in college. Game should come before RL, are you serious or just trolling? :)

    But to the question in the end, not unfair, just dumb. It's your guild, you can put whatever elitist filter you want in the application process. On the other hand I don't think it will do any good to a guild, and probably it's against the TOS as well... (I'm not sure about this, but there's a huge chance it is, since you want to decide based on gender and social status)

    Actually its not a TOS issue at all. Filtering out applicants is simply filtering out applicants. if anyone who asked could join a guild then Guilds would be Raided and pillaged, their banks would be made bare to anyone.

     

    I Disagree, This isn't so much as it being "Dumb" its actually not, its more working toward effectiveness. If you are part of a Guild who is Focusing on Clearing as much endgame content as possible then you want people who are devoted enough to get to that specific area. Having anyone else in the Guild would just be swimming upstream. its basic Min Maxing, If i was going to make a Hardcore Raiding guild i would remove anyone without Time or Interest in actually Raiding, Or i would specifically tell them that you WONT be getting into a raid due to the unstableness of your schedual. This isn't a thing of selfishness. If i have to organize a raid and i get 10 people, then suddenly one person says "crap guys i gotta leave me kid needs X" Suddenly the nights over not just for that one person but for the 9 others unless you can pull a rabbit out of a hat.

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  • VengeSunsoarVengeSunsoar Member EpicPosts: 6,601

    I think it's a big issue.

    My sister and her husband are big gamers.  I'm entirely convinced that my two nephews have suffered for it.  The oldest one (now 5) is severely unsocialized, talking skills are weak, extremely emotionally labile, cannot handle the crowds and noise of his kindergarden class, just sits in the corner and cries.  He has now been referred to a special school with more appropriate therapists.

    However my sister and her husband would basically just ignore him while they played on their games.  Oh he was fed and changed regularly but there was no socialization and it shows.

    Does he have learning disabilities, yes.  Could they be from something other than the lack of socialization? Possibly.  Did the lack of socialiation impact them?  Absolutely. 

    Talking to her about this is... touchy and we try to focus more on going forward rather than "look at what happened."

    His little brother (3 years old) is far more developed socially and emotionally than the older brother, possibly just because he had an older brother to play with during these formative years. 

    edit - I know a somewhat different angle than you expressed.  But real lives can definately be impacted from them. 

    edit 2 - interestingly enough the federal court here in Canada just ruled on this.  http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/court-says-employers-must-accommodate-staffs-child-care-requests/article8288899/

     

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  • mmoguy43mmoguy43 Member UncommonPosts: 2,770
    It is fair for your guild but not fair to just any mom with children.
  • k11keeperk11keeper Member UncommonPosts: 1,048

    This entire idea is pretty absurd. To single out mom's with kids is kinda crazy. If you have strict attendance policies then just deny people based solely on that. You don't need to go out and stereotype sections of the population.

    Also this entire mindset of game > RL is one of the reasons I no longer participate in hardcore endgame guilds. I just don't have the time or patience and honestly some punk 20 year old living with mom getting angry cause I want to spend time with my kid or wife is something I won't put up with. Even when I did do some hardcore guilding, I've never felt the need to have any more reason than "I didn't feel like raiding tonight" to not show up for something honestly. If it's something with the kid or wife I will drop the game without a second thought. Do I prefer to limit how often that occurs, of course, but your toon getting some more epeen is not more important than my family.

     

  • ThorkuneThorkune Member UncommonPosts: 1,969
    That's why I always look for a casual guild. I don't want raid pressure of any kind. I have been in several guilds where we have had Mom's that had to leave our groups due to child issues. No biggie. we either get a replacement, or we reschedule. With me, real life always comes before gaming...no exceptions.
  • BladestromBladestrom Member UncommonPosts: 5,001
    Originally posted by VengeSunsoar

    I think it's a big issue.

    My sister and her husband are big gamers.  I'm entirely convinced that my two nephews have suffered for it.  The oldest one (now 5) is severely unsocialized, talking skills are weak, extremely emotionally labile, cannot handle the crowds and noise of his kindergarden class, just sits in the corner and cries.  He has now been referred to a special school with more appropriate therapists.

    However my sister and her husband would basically just ignore him while they played on their games.  Oh he was fed and changed regularly but there was no socialization and it shows.

    Does he have learning disabilities, yes.  Could they be from something other than the lack of socialization? Possibly.  Did the lack of socialiation impact them?  Absolutely. 

    Talking to her about this is... touchy and we try to focus more on going forward rather than "look at what happened."

    His little brother (3 years old) is far more developed socially and emotionally than the older brother, possibly just because he had an older brother to play with during these formative years. 

    edit - I know a somewhat different angle than you expressed.  But real lives can definately be impacted from them. 

    Its absolutely damaging for a child to be ignored by their parents for hours as a time.  A child may be well fed etc, but what exactly is that child learning from seeing their parents 'ignore them'.  And i know from experience while raiding you are 100% focused on the raid and interruptions tend to irritate.  Its just unhealthy and selfish and I would suggest a form of passive abuse not a hell of a lot different from having parents hooked on drugs.

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  • nariusseldonnariusseldon Member EpicPosts: 27,775

    It is a free world. You guild is free to decide the guidelines of membership. There is no legal regulation. You can be as discriminitive as you like.

    OTOH, moms with little kids are free to enjoy their entertainment. There is no need for them to put anything else before their kids. There are always guilds that will accept almost anyone.

    Personally i find the idea of trying to convince what others should or should not do laughable. Just decide whether to associate with them, and let them live their life.

     

  • FARGIN_WARFARGIN_WAR Member Posts: 166
    Originally posted by eyelolled

    I think that is the problem with raiding. 

     

    As a father, I can say that there isn't a person on this earth that is more important than my kids.  If someone wants me to put them before my kids, they can kiss my ass.   I don't want to be the guy that everyone is waiting on, and I avoid putting myself into that situation as much as possible. However, when it comes down to it,  if my kids wants my attention (notice I didn't use the term need) then they get it.

     

    The only problem I see with your viewpoint, is that it assumes there is a difference between mothers and fathers.

    Hey look something we both agree on! Guess that means the world's going to end.

    Every and I mean every fucking guild I've ever been in that imploded due to drama, have always been due to someone's hurt feelings over raiding. Drops, schedule, build, personal life vs guild commitment, etc. In my opinion every serious raider is a ticking time bomb. Excluding an entire group of people from joining your guild over the actions of a few seems rather delusional.

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  • RaysheRayshe Member UncommonPosts: 1,279
    Originally posted by k11keeper

    This entire idea is pretty absurd. To single out mom's with kids is kinda crazy. If you have strict attendance policies then just deny people based solely on that. You don't need to go out and stereotype sections of the population.

    Also this entire mindset of game > RL is one of the reasons I no longer participate in hardcore endgame guilds. I just don't have the time or patience and honestly some punk 20 year old living with mom getting angry cause I want to spend time with my kid or wife is something I won't put up with. Even when I did do some hardcore guilding, I've never felt the need to have any more reason than "I didn't feel like raiding tonight" to not show up for something honestly. If it's something with the kid or wife I will drop the game without a second thought. Do I prefer to limit how often that occurs, of course, but your toon getting some more epeen is not more important than my family.

     

     

     

    I can agree with that ideal, Honestly i can agree with most ideals when it comes to gaming. However its based on the end result for who you want, Kinda like a risk factor. Outfitting a hardcore guild with Casual players wont get anywhere, Sure i may get a stigma from other groups however, im aiming towards a specific end goal. If i don't think your can fit into that setting then i wont accept you.

     

    That being said just so people know im not part of a hardcore Guild anymore, i sit as a casual progression who does stuff when we have the people nessessary.

    Because i can.
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  • jonrd463jonrd463 Member UncommonPosts: 607
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  • DaxamarDaxamar Member UncommonPosts: 593

    Im so stunned by the OP, I dont even know what to say.

     

  • IcewhiteIcewhite Member Posts: 6,403
    Originally posted by CalmOceans

    You think we're unfair if we deny applicants just on the basis of being a mom with child, companies do this, why can't we?

    You can deny applicants for any silly-buggers reason you want to.

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  • k11keeperk11keeper Member UncommonPosts: 1,048
    Originally posted by Rayshe
    Originally posted by k11keeper
     

    I can agree with that ideal, Honestly i can agree with most ideals when it comes to gaming. However its based on the end result for who you want, Kinda like a risk factor. Outfitting a hardcore guild with Casual players wont get anywhere, Sure i may get a stigma from other groups however, im aiming towards a specific end goal. If i don't think your can fit into that setting then i wont accept you.

     That being said just so people know im not part of a hardcore Guild anymore, i sit as a casual progression who does stuff when we have the people nessessary.

    I'm not really saying to outfit hardcore guilds with casuals that would be pretty silly. In the OPs situation it's perfectly legitimate not allowing people in that can't meet your schedule requirements. What I'm more saying is the reason for missing the shedule shouldn't matter and stereotyping a group as a time bomb waiting to happen isn't cool. It should be solely about whether you can make it to stuff or not. The guild really has no need to know whether or not I'm a father, mother, husband, wife or just a flake who skips out on stuff all the time for no apparent reason. I'm either there or not that's all you need to be concerned with.

  • erictlewiserictlewis Member UncommonPosts: 3,022

    Why is it just mom's the op is mad at.  What about single dad's who have the kids.  It happens I got a friend who got custody becasue his wife was a crack head. 

    I can understand rules,  but to come out and say mothers have kids and they have short fuses, it jsut wrong. 

    I know mothers who have long fuses, my wfie for an example. If anything goes wrong I will be told, your daughter and that is my clue to go fix the situation as I see fit. 

    I will say this family first, work second and raiding last.  And if my raid leader don't like that, well he can replace me.  Raiding is not the end all be all of the world.  I not went to raids becasue of family issues, becasue I did not feel like putting up with a certain person who was going to be on the raid, and sometimes just becasue I needed some time just for me. 

    I jsut thing the op generalized and is picking on one type of person, when in all actualy  I think he/she has totaly missed the point.  

     

  • PyukPyuk Member UncommonPosts: 762
    Originally posted by eyelolled

    I think that is the problem with raiding. 

     

    As a father, I can say that there isn't a person on this earth that is more important than my kids.  If someone wants me to put them before my kids, they can kiss my ass.   I don't want to be the guy that everyone is waiting on, and I avoid putting myself into that situation as much as possible. However, when it comes down to it,  if my kids wants my attention (notice I didn't use the term need) then they get it.

     

    The only problem I see with your viewpoint, is that it assumes there is a difference between mothers and fathers.

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  • BladestromBladestrom Member UncommonPosts: 5,001
    Originally posted by k11keeper
    Originally posted by Rayshe
    Originally posted by k11keeper
     

    I can agree with that ideal, Honestly i can agree with most ideals when it comes to gaming. However its based on the end result for who you want, Kinda like a risk factor. Outfitting a hardcore guild with Casual players wont get anywhere, Sure i may get a stigma from other groups however, im aiming towards a specific end goal. If i don't think your can fit into that setting then i wont accept you.

     That being said just so people know im not part of a hardcore Guild anymore, i sit as a casual progression who does stuff when we have the people nessessary.

    I'm not really saying to outfit hardcore guilds with casuals that would be pretty silly. In the OPs situation it's perfectly legitimate not allowing people in that can't meet your schedule requirements. What I'm more saying is the reason for missing the shedule shouldn't matter and stereotyping a group as a time bomb waiting to happen isn't cool. It should be solely about whether you can make it to stuff or not. The guild really has no need to know whether or not I'm a father, mother, husband, wife or just a flake who skips out on stuff all the time for no apparent reason. I'm either there or not that's all you need to be concerned with.

    If a guild intends to have 10 people focus for 100% of the time for x hour blocks you as a parent cannot and should not be able to guarantee  that.  When a parent goes afk for 10 minutes that affects 9 other real people.   There is a time when you have to realise you cannot have your cake and eat it.  Seems reasonable at hte very least you should give the guild the option to consider that your children will come first at times.

    This applies to moms and dads equally.

     

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  • KenFisherKenFisher Member UncommonPosts: 5,035

    The way I see it, guild participation is a priviledge, not a right.

     

    It's your organization, run it as you see fit.


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  • nariusseldonnariusseldon Member EpicPosts: 27,775
    Originally posted by Bladestrom
     

    If a guild intends to have 10 people focus for 100% of the time for x hour blocks you as a parent cannot and should not be able to guarantee  that.  When a parent goes afk for 10 minutes that affects 9 other real people.   There is a time when you have to realise you cannot have your cake and eat it.  Seems reasonable at hte very least you should give the guild the option to consider that your children will come first at times.

    This applies to moms and dads equally.

     

    Don't most guild applications ask for scheduling availablity? Unless someone is actively deceving in the application, this will come up almost for sure.

     

  • BladestromBladestrom Member UncommonPosts: 5,001
    Originally posted by nariusseldon
    Originally posted by Bladestrom
     

    If a guild intends to have 10 people focus for 100% of the time for x hour blocks you as a parent cannot and should not be able to guarantee  that.  When a parent goes afk for 10 minutes that affects 9 other real people.   There is a time when you have to realise you cannot have your cake and eat it.  Seems reasonable at hte very least you should give the guild the option to consider that your children will come first at times.

    This applies to moms and dads equally.

     

    Don't most guild applications ask for scheduling availablity? Unless someone is actively deceving in the application, this will come up almost for sure.

     

     Agree. 

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  • RaysheRayshe Member UncommonPosts: 1,279
    Originally posted by k11keeper
    Originally posted by Rayshe
    Originally posted by k11keeper
     

    I can agree with that ideal, Honestly i can agree with most ideals when it comes to gaming. However its based on the end result for who you want, Kinda like a risk factor. Outfitting a hardcore guild with Casual players wont get anywhere, Sure i may get a stigma from other groups however, im aiming towards a specific end goal. If i don't think your can fit into that setting then i wont accept you.

     That being said just so people know im not part of a hardcore Guild anymore, i sit as a casual progression who does stuff when we have the people nessessary.

    I'm not really saying to outfit hardcore guilds with casuals that would be pretty silly. In the OPs situation it's perfectly legitimate not allowing people in that can't meet your schedule requirements. What I'm more saying is the reason for missing the shedule shouldn't matter and stereotyping a group as a time bomb waiting to happen isn't cool. It should be solely about whether you can make it to stuff or not. The guild really has no need to know whether or not I'm a father, mother, husband, wife or just a flake who skips out on stuff all the time for no apparent reason. I'm either there or not that's all you need to be concerned with.

    OH i know, we are basically making the same point i understand that.

    I mainly Defending the First Post without useing words that would make people jump up and down screaming sexist things (luckly it hasnt happened that badly yet) as we can agree the Thread can basically go down as "Am i forced to accept somone even though i know they will be a problem eventually" Which is why i gave the answer.

    1, Dont accept them, Maybe gain a stigma because of who you accept or refuse to accept.

    2. accept them but clearly say they will not be Raiding because they are a bomb waiting to go off.

    Because i can.
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  • L0C0ManL0C0Man Member UncommonPosts: 1,065

    I can see both sides of the discussion here.

    Being on a hardcore raiding guild takes time and dedication (I'm not going on whether it's worth it because it's not relevant and ultimately it's a personal choice for everyone). If you can't give both for whatever reason, be it a baby, be it work, be it studies, be it RL or anything else, then a hardcore raiding guild is not for you, period. It's not fair for the rest of the guild that want to do as much as possible as fast as possible when they have to continuously wait for someone, and it's not fair for yourself to go trough the trouble of trying to keep up and the bad experience of being kicked if you can't, and in the case of a baby, not fair for him to have a parent trying to take care of him as fast as possible so he can get back to the raid, so I don't think you're particularly unfair there.

    That said, don't really see the point of creating a needlessly inflamatory thread about it in the first place. No idea what experiences or problem the OP had that drove him/her to create it, but I'd say, for example, a title like "if you have a young child, a raiding guild is not for you" is much more relevant to the discussion in it than just calling mothers of young children "ticking time bombs", and of course there's always what you say and how you say it... for example, it's not the same saying "sorry, we need someone that can dedicate more time to the game than you can at the moment" than "you must put the game before your child"... of course any parent will flip out at the second one.

    I've never been part of a hardcore raiding guild, though... the closest I've been was when we were weekly raiding karazhan in WoW back during TBC, and we had a couple with young kids that were regulars. Sometimes when it was late at night both would come, but with the understanding that one might have to leave in a hurry if the baby woke up, other times if the baby was awake they would take turns playing (and other times would even play with the baby... she loved playing "horsie".. AKA, running around WoW with her mother's char mounted in a horse), and while I never raided hardcore, I did try to do at least 1 or 2 dungeons run a night or more on weekends, but after my baby was born I've become a much more solo players (which is probably why I'm loving GW2 so much), and usually anytime I go do a dungeon for the first time (rare) first thing I ask is "how long will it take?" and warn that the baby is sleeping and might have to leave if it wakes up, but he usually doesn't. Of course it helps that I'm in a guild that mostly caters to the older players lifestyle.. :)

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  • BladestromBladestrom Member UncommonPosts: 5,001
    Absolutely agree ^^ I am exact same, plan to fit game in windows where you can play responsibly.  If the OP title simply had 'parent' instead of 'Mom' it would also be fine imo.  Its not allways single parents either.

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  • GrixxittGrixxitt Member UncommonPosts: 545
    I've always marveled at how much more intense the hardcore PvE crowd is as compared to a mixed or PvP crowd. Maybe it has to do with not being able to handle losing?? -dunno-





    But yeah, if you guys want only single white nerds in diapers with poop buckets handy that is 100% you guys' prerogative.


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  • HrimnirHrimnir Member RarePosts: 2,415
    Originally posted by Schoeneck93

    If she can't put raiding first... like before her children? 

     

    I'm currently sharing this post with friends, as well as a good laugh. 

     

    Fuckin' hysterical. I can't even believe you're serious. 

     

    "Oh hey, if real life gets in the way of your raid time, we're not for you." 

    So you're actually encouraging that people put games before their real life? Like REALLY?

     

    I understand if gaming is you're job or career or whatever but come on, otherwise you guys need to be a bit more accomadating, People do have things to do that are far more important than playing a game with you. 

     

    EDIT:

     

    And you want to know why COMPANIES can do this, and NOT you? I'll tell you right here right now.

     

    COMPANIES, are paying money.

     

    YOU, are not. You are paying with blatent generalization and bitter treatment towards those who can't always be online. 

     

    And on a side-note, to me, it seems like YOU guys are the ones creating the drama by telling them they need to put gaming before their children. 

    When moms start to create drama, just ignore it. Don't dignify it with a response. 

    I see this all the time, people complaining about the drama, which is drama in its self. Do you understand now young padawan? 

     

    EDIT:

    While they may not fit into the guilds time schedule, maybe there are people in the guild that they enjoy playing with? And that's the only reason they are on. What's the big deal? Like truly, tell me, what is the huge deal, if you can give me a GOOD reason, then I'll agree. But there isn't one. The only reasons are "Then we have people in our guild who aren't doing what we're doing." Or because you've got some sort of OCD so strong that you need to have everyone doing what you're doing to stay organized in your mind. The fact that she may have friends and or people she enjoys hanging out with/playing with/talking to in the guild doesn't occur to you? 

    Why does she have to be a hardcore raider? 

     

    And Navy SEALs and a Guild are not the same things. Not even close. It's silly to say you're kicking them because of drama, when really that in its self is dramatic. If you're going to kick someone, kick someone for being an asshole or for swearing or something legitimate. Not because they can't play every time you're playing. Seems EXTREMELY egoistic/self-centered to me. 

    Someone else who clearly doesn't get it.

    So, let me ask this question cochise.  Should a player on a college football team immediately leave the field because he found out his wife called him and told him their kid was sick and wanted daddy?

    The fact that it is a game has absolutely no bearing on ANYTHING.  When you are participating in a group activity that REQUIRES the attention and mental focus of every person on that team, then its NOT ok for you to put RL in front of that (barring life/death type of shit) when YOU made a COMMITMENT to 19 or more other people to do your part.

    Now, if this was some kind of casual guild and everyone online was like "hey you guys feel like raiding this place?" and they just threw the raid together, then thats a different story.

    But, if she joined ahead of time, and the guild leader made it clear that this was a raiding guild and we have specific times and needs for our raiders.  Then no, he didnt nothing at all wrong.

     

    Its the same type of selfish BS that parents do when they take their screaming ass kid to a movie theater at 7pm because they wanted to see some new movie but couldnt find or afford a baby sitter.  So instead of being a reasonable adult and realizing you're going to ruin it for everyone else by being there with your kid and staying the hell home, you go and instead.  Its all just selfish BS.

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