What's going on guys. I know this may be a long read for some of you, but I just want to have a discussion about the atittudes, personalities, or even the psychological problems of most players we encounter in MMO's.
I've been playing mmo's off and on for a long time. Aion happens to be my first P2P and I've been playing that since Chinese P2P. To me, I still feel pretty new to the MMO scene, even though I keep updated with them all the time and play them often. When I play a mmo, my real persona falls into there. Even though I carry good morals and can't carry a conversation with very few people about what I like to do (dancing, gym, ladies, nightlife, etc), I always meet some very interesting people from all over.
Then you start to meet a lot of people who really don’t play MMO's as a vacation from life. They bring their drama INTO the game. It's almost like when you’re at work, and Lisa clocks-in with a big attitude over what her baby's daddy did to her and stuff. When people generate attitudes over a game, I'm starting to think there is a big problem in their life.
I've had one woman leave our guild to a higher guild, because she "thought" that she could get what she wanted for free. The most honest thing I've ever heard from her was something like this (which took place in ventrilo), "Look; in life, I don't get what I want. I don't get what I want from my husband and he’s trying to find a job, my kids that are disabled, it's hard! I just actually want to have something to be happy about...." So her real life was pretty much too demanding and declining. I responded sort of like this, "I understand, but if that's the case you are playing the wrong game. In order to get what you want in life and in this game, you have to work. Grinding is no different then hustling. I don’t see why you can’t just do the hard work to achieve what you want? We are all doing it and not looking for handouts from anybody…"
She also tried to throw in that we don’t do anything, etc, etc. but this woman had the strongest core group in the guild. She just wasn’t getting what she wanted. The way that story ends is that she did leave our guild and 2 months later, everybody in my guild was decked out in the latest, strongest gear and she was still nowhere with the same crap gear she went in with. She was nothing in that guild and the guild even died. When I confronted her about that, I was blocked. This is ok, because in the end, she knows I was right.
This is just one story from the many incidents I've been though. People get aggregated, angry, become deceiving, etc. all in this game. This makes me wonder if this is the way they act or it’s all a front. Why do people with life issues who bring them into MMO's where it should be a place where you can relax. We all can have issues, but why play a game where’re your interacting with other people?
Generally the MMO world and real life isn't too different in some ways. You have to sometimes work hard and do odd jobs to get where you need to be. I figure I could hear some other people's comments and stories on situations like these.