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Games seem to fall into three basic camps now on this issue.
In one you look however the gear you use makes you look. E.g., EQ 1 (though they later introduced dyes and such).
In another you get to design your look, and gear does not really influence it. E.g., City of Heroes (at least when I played it).
In a third gear influences your look, but you can wear "appearance armor" that let's you look cool, even if your stat gear is not so cool. E.g., EQ II.
Personally I have come to enjoy designing how my character looks, or at least being able to choose from some decent looking appearance armor (if my regular armor is ugly or silly looking).
What do you think? Is appearance important to you? Do you want a say in how you look?
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